There is so much for an expectant couple to do while awaiting the birth of their child. One thing that might not come to mind but that does take a lot of time is finding the right name for the child. That name will be carried by the child throughout his or her entire life, so it seems that some thought is warranted before a choice is made. Some say that the wrong name will ruin their chances of being successful in school, business, and life in general. I guess that explains the hundreds of books and other resources out there which are meant to aid in the decision.
Mom and dad might have a favorite name or two off the bat, and if they are lucky they will agree and be done with the discussion. For many others it isn’t so easy. It may become clear early on that they have very different taste in baby names, so the search begins for that ONE name that they both can be happy with. Into the mix go the opinions of grandparents-to-be, best friends, and strangers on the internet who have strong opinions about the names being proposed. There are websites to tell you the meaning of every name you are considering too. This could be helpful except if you have a name that you absolutely love and you find out that the meaning of that name is “loser.” Now you have to start all over again.
My husband and I knew that we were expecting two girls and a boy, which at least helped to organize our name conversations to some extent. We had picked a few names during the pregnancy, but then as time and discussions went on we would change our minds. Finally we had 3 names that we were both at least partially satisfied with and I decided to just lock it in. I didn’t want to waste anymore brain activity on the matter. Of course the day of the birth I started to think about it again, just to be sure we weren’t making a mistake. But we stuck with the plan and I am glad we did.
The babies are nearing their 9 month birthday now. The names we chose are solid, a little different, and most importantly, settled. We are not changing them now, so there is no point in thinking about other names I almost picked and wondering whether that would have been better. Once you get to know your baby, the name just morphs from a random grouping of letters into a real part of their identity. I wouldn’t be able to change them, nor would I ever want to. We worked hard to make sure we liked the names we chose and that is how we know they are the right ones.
You may have been reading this article in the hopes that I would have the perfect name ready for you. If only I could be that clairvoyant. What I am suggesting to you instead is that you go with your gut. The name that makes you happy is the right one regardless of what others have to say about it. In the end, you will raise a wonderful person no matter what name you choose. People will come to like the name because of how much they like the person behind it.